Maintaining boundaries is a difficult task but more difficult than that is setting boundaries. When I started to feel the need to have my own boundaries during the Dark-Night of the Soul (it’s so needed then), I was a bit confused at first. Because most of the sites, many people talk about letting others know that we’re to be respected and not taken for granted, we shouldn’t be manipulated emotionally or otherwise, nor we should be used for their benefit.
So, when I first started to tell people, my life became more of a mess, even with polite and humble gestures. People won’t take that easy, I was termed drama-queen and too extra. But that wasn’t all, as my peace whatever it was, and inner equilibrium was further challenged. I was in deep spiritual depression and with this kind of boundary setting my balance worsened.
That’s when it hit me hard, “I am here to master myself and not others”. And if others could be mastered or controlled which again isn’t healthy, nobody would be despair and more so me. Then I started reading books about emotional healing and empath healing which clearly told me that I have to center and ground myself to not let anyone or any situation manipulate me. Even getting angry or sad over what others do towards us is a kind of emotional manipulation that every empath goes through.
All those talks of having boundaries and still “attaching” our-self to others and expecting a miracle can feel glamorous to our ego, but is completely futile and is an ego stand-point.
For example, listen to this, “you are worthy and others should feel your worth. Tell them to behave appropriately”. It may make our ego inflated but in the long run it’s sure sought to depression, anxiety and stress.
Another factor that came up with boundaries is the fact of not being compassionate or not holding space for others. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean we are creating a bad karmic cycle for us, it’s about protecting our-self and grounding – centring in one’s being to the point that nobody holds power over us in any way. So when we go to that meet which we have been dreading and meet the person we don’t want to because they have always been the worst, we aren’t rude or angry or giving our power away in any form. Centering and true boundaries in fact are a space of holding compassion for that person as they don’t know better.
Here want to clear the air, that when I say holding space or being compassionate, it’s not being friendly. There are two different zones we live in, one is our inner-world and the other is our outer world. So, within us we are holding space and that is translating into our “being not rude behavior” but we may not be friendly or chit-chatting with them. We can even avoid them with our silence and distancing us as much as possible.
The boundary that we set is thus not ego-centric but Soul-empowering, its pure self-love. How much can you love yourself to not let anybody tarnish your inner-truth or your belief in yourself?
With this meditation we are not only setting and maintain boundaries but also, grounding and balancing our emotions to remain empowered. We are also working with the mighty fiery energy of my fav Archangel Michael which is wonderful. The self-affirmations used in this meditation is listed below,
INTENTION SETTING AFFIRMATIONS
- I want to be empowered.
- I want to feel that power in me, so not to let anyone or any situation manipulate me, create in- harmony and chaos with their behavior or actions.
- I intend now to set boundaries and keep them.
When you are focusing on your heart-center,
(replace all “you/your” with “I/my”)
You matter the most in your life.
Your feelings-opinions-thoughts matters.
Your peace, fulfillment, success, matters.
Your being in this Universe, on Earth matters.
When AA Michael is shifting energies in you,
You are powerful.
You are special.
Your life, your “being” matters to the highest.
No one, nobody in this lifetime or the next is able to break the strong bond of trust you have for you now.
Nobody can hold any power over you.
You have the power in you to keep the boundaries of power, strength & goodness.
You don’t need anyone else to tell your worth because you know, you are powerful, you are worthy, you’re so loved.
You are wonderful.
You are a bright light.
You’re the Master in you.
You’re the Infinite-Power.
You’re the multidimensional being of light, who can do anything.
These are all stated in the meditation but from here you can copy and use for yourself.
Remain blessed with your power and boundaries, always!!!