With the questions put up in my last blog and the answers that I got, I felt it’s the apt time to write about our heart center, the center of our being. Many enthusiastic and compassionate souls are dampen by these experiences. Lets today touch on this heart touching topic 🙂
This is one of those viable things now a days that it defies physical age, gender, caste, creed, nationality, sexual preferences ………………….. everything.
All of us including children have had to deal with heart breaks. At a young physical age it’s the issues with friends, teachers, grades and play while at a later age its colleagues, love interest, husband/wife, family, in-laws, friends.
Overall, 90% of heart breaks are caused due to relationships and the rest 10% is due to dreams not coming true in professional field, work, business, passion, finances and health.
Most of these times when we look or analyze our previous heart breaks we find that the new ones happening is again on the same line. We don’t understand why and then blame the fate/destiny which ultimately is made by us and nobody else. So, what are we doing wrongly, where are we going wrong? We can’t really put a finger at them.
Here I have put up some of the reasons which bring in heart issues, love issues and are also a trigger to heal it.
The Letting Go and Forgiveness Difficulty
One of the many reasons due to which a pattern develops of getting heartbroken is the issues that we face in letting go and forgiving a person or a situation. We just cannot let our self forget and repeat this situation or about this person in our head over and over again.
For a healthy and peaceful life we need to learn the art of forgiving thoroughly. It means that the person or the situation should not hold any power over us. If we have really forgiven then this person or the situation should not let out harsh emotional reaction to them in mind or in person.
For healing, this from your life try to let go off this situation and the person involved thereof.
One more aspect is whatever happens in our life is due to our previous karma, of this incarnation or other. Now when this person who did wrong to you or the situation that had been created to do wrong then they will carry your karmic burden on the, that is the Universal plan. But when you keep repeating it in your mind and emotions neither your karma leaves you nor good karma can accumulate. Now what happens that the same Karma is gaining weight and so and people with same mentality repeat themselves in various forms in your life.
Forgiveness is what we do for our self, not for others as we think.
Finding your Hidden Self*
The most difficult part is when we see this situation happen in our life and cut out our self from all kind of responsibility for the situation. The truth remains that in every situation, whether good or bad we are the most responsible of all. Either we have not paid heed to our intuition or we have kept our self thorough blind to the emerging negativity or we were too naive for the same, but in the end nobody is more to blame than our self. At times others feeding our ego become our best friend even when what we are feeling good about is the flare of our proud and greed and ego.
Somewhere hidden in us are the emotions or mentality that attracts negative situations, energy and people around us. That is why it is so important to do “Self-Forgiveness”.
But it’s the most difficult as we are not attuned to finding faults in us and rather than analysing our self we will sit and talk and judge others. When I asked my clients to self forgive, many of them ask “Why me? What have I done?”
It’s so difficult to see the hidden self that we have, sometime good and mostly the hidden negativity within us that we miss out on one very important thing when we want to manifest good relationships and good energy, which is energy change in our self, within us.
So if you really want to move out of the circle of heart issues and heart breaks then this is of utmost importance, knowing your hidden self to forgive it.
Creating Demon or Angel ~ Your Choice
“This situation or person has happen to me, now what? I need to tell everybody about my experience because sharing will lower down my pain.”
Most of us think this way but do we know the reality? The reality is as we go on telling the same old tale to everybody we know, parents, friends, colleagues and who we think we can share it, we relieved that same situation, that person every single day. So what are we doing through it?
We are creating a world of deceit around us. The tale that we hungrily tell to everybody does not relive us of the pain but ground it more in our psyche, in our subconscious. Also our Aura gets marred with negative energies that we our self through on us with reliving the very painful moment each day.
And since telepathy is getting established by the physical science so we all now know about the thoughts to be living beings that we create. When we are creating a thought of deceit, pain, sorrow and heart break and, each day we are feeding it with more energy, we slowly make it a demon of negativity.
What could have been a lesson for us, for our good and for our future to be hassle free is now something which will become a way of life for us, as this powerful energy thought will try to create the same situations, people in our life so that you think of them and provide it food in form of energy. This negative thought form is now a part of our EGO creating and repeating the same karmic patterns.
While we could have been wise enough to create an Angel of love and positivity that would have helped me in creating good relationships and a good future is now in doldrums as we create the negative. Then with each negative situation and people we sink deep into the abyss of ego thinking that there is no return and blaming others for everything happening.
Having and Owing Love
We all feel that we must be loved, our parents, grandparents, siblings, relatives, friends, teachers and even colleagues and bosses must like us. Remaining in others good books is our notion of love and this can only be gained by others.
Why we never consider our self as the focal point of getting love from, I don’t understand. We have all sorts of notions about a partner who will come into our life at such and such a point and love us unconditionally, while we don’t even like our self. And then we blame that we have not been given love, we are not loved and so on. If we have a void then only we are capable of filing it, nobody else have that power to fill it up how much they try.
So, now with our limited notion of our self we seek out to the world to think good of us and there remains the fallacy. Then when the other person or situation judges us, making us more vulnerable, more spiteful towards them, we forget that this is what we have done to our self, while we kept denying self love. Till the time you can’t love yourself fully, nobody else will.
Acceptance and Surrender
This is one of those few rituals which if not done the circle of events start again. When we are hurt by a situation or circumstance and a person we give them too much space in our life because we deny accepting the fact that the situation and the person happened to us. And, when we deny, we create a block for it without realizing that each time we think of it without acceptance we ask it to come back to us and this time with more force.
Accepting the situation and the person AND the heart break will help us deal with it easily. Also surrendering it to the Universal force will let it heal itself without us realizing. We must not forget that we lie in this universe and the force of the same works on us. So when we surrender our self to the intelligent and loving forces of the universe with the acceptance of the situation and the learning that comes with it, the universe works to heal and let the energies scatter away from life.
If we take care of these consciously then not the day to day issues are soled but we are able to eradicate the newer ones which might develop with time.
Working with this knowledge will only ensure your happiness.
Hidden Self* –> Taken from book “Manifest The Life You Love” (https://notionpress.com/read/manifest-the-life-you-love) where tools are given to find it and work with it for happiness, peace and difficulty free progress.